How to teach your child to say "Thank You" and be polite when accepting gifts

"Say Thank You!" and “Say Please!” are the two phrases which are uttered by all the parents around the world like a sing-song voice to their child. And the reason is that parents always want their kids to be polite and thankful when accepting gifts. A child can be taught about empathy, but do you think that the current methods are important to teach our child to say thank you and be polite when accepting gifts? In this post, we will look into the best tips which can help every parent to teach his/her child to be polite and thankful. And the best thing is that you really don’t have to remind and prompt in excess to your child.

#1 Start at a Young Age
Yes, you can start making your baby learn to say thank you at a young age using the baby signs. Whenever you baby gives you something, you can smile, nod and say thank you. You just have to place the fingertips in front of your lips and extend it downward. And yes, your baby will start using such signs with time or they will try attempting to verbalize a thank you, then you have to encourage your baby with hugs and smiles because it is an indication of good manners. If you will give your baby an enthusiastic response then your baby will continue with the practice.

#2 A Good Role Model
It is you who have to be a good role model because if you want your child to learn to say thank you and be polite when accepting gifts, then it is you who have to make sure to do it yourself. Parents do have a habit of giving commands and instructions to their children but forgets to tell them about this meaningful and thoughtful phrase. We can encourage kids by saying thank you every time they give us something or simply by remembering them to say it. There are many parents who even make their kids learn about sending the thank you cards for getting a gift from someone. This is particularly one of the best practices not only for the kids but even for the grown-ups.

#3 Master the hand-off
Yes, you can teach your kid to say thank you ‘in vivo’. It means that when you give something to your kid, then do not hand-off immediately and hold it until you hear a thank you. When he/she will give you a puzzled look, then you can say that ‘when someone gives you something, you must be polite to say a thank you.’ And yes, your kid will remember these words and will make you feel proud the next time when he/she gets a gift from someone. It is up to you how frequently you can practice this, and then the response from your kid will become a habit soon.

#4 Mean it more than words
If you are saying thank you out of courtesy or habit, it is good but the best thank you comes from a heart of a person. These two words, ‘Thank You’ can be uttered by anyone, but you just have to show or mean it more than words. So, whenever you see people saying thank you around you, then you can help your children to connect their words with their hearts.

#5 Awareness of Feelings
People who are polite in nature are considerate about the feelings of other people. So, it is you who have to make your kid aware of his own feelings and emotions in simple language. When your kid turns 18-month old, then you can start talking about feelings of other people. The best practice for making great conversations about emotions is to make your kid learn them through the books.

#6 Raise a Helper
You have to give your kid plenty of opportunities to help you in simple tasks and then show your appreciation for the work he/she does for you. The simple task can be anything like, taking an empty cup to the kitchen or helping you to clean the dining table or anything. You can talk about how it makes you feel when your child helps you because it will encourage your kid to offer help to other people whenever he gets an opportunity.

In our last article, we talked about the ways to say thank you and to show appreciation where we briefly explained that how one can express his/her gratitude to people who did something special or gave you something as a gift. And yes, you can teach your kids these ways as well. It is a proud moment for parents when their kids remember to say thank you and be polite when accepting gifts. Thank You is a phrase which is specifically used for confirming the positive behaviours. It is important to teach kids the manners of using polite language. The core values of good manners include consideration, respect, and kindness. And these are the values which are utterly important for your kid to develop positive and healthy relationships.

Do you know that expressing your feelings of thanks to someone can help you in decreasing your stress and increasing a sense of belonging to the person? YES. If you really want to raise grateful kids, then you just have to model your behavior first.